Being “on the fence” is one of the worst places you can be.
Being undecided means you’re uncommitted. It means you’re not sure if the thing you’re considering is worth it. Instead of moving ahead, you stay in one place, weighing your options.
When you’re undecided, every move you make lacks the full force you’re capable of. You can get away with half-assing things because your ego is protected. You haven’t decided, therefore you can’t be held accountable.
When you’re undecided, you dabble, trying to “decide” whether it’s worth it. What you’re really doing is hoping for new evidence or a push in one direction or another. Most times that new evidence doesn’t show up, and that push never comes. So you’re stuck on the fence, waiting for the balls to make your decision.
For anything worth pursuing long-term, there are rarely big events early on that tell you you’re on the right path. Only after months and months or years and years can you look back and see the progress and the signs that were there. In the moment, it just looks like hard work and uncertainty.
So deciding is one of life’s great challenges.
Deciding is critical because without a firm commitment, you can’t make long-term significant progress. If you don’t decide, you’ll likely bounce from one idea to the next, weighing options, trying to know which decisions to make.
There are no perfect decisions. Every time you choose something, by default you rule something else out. That’s something you have to get comfortable with in order to make progress.
For people who decide and do, life is long and full of accomplishments. For people who sit on the fence for year after year, life is short and full of regret. Most people put off decisions because of uncertainty and what they might miss out on otherwise.
Here’s the crazy thing about decisions: when you decide, you miss out on one set of possibilities but gain another. When you don’t decide, you miss out on both sets of possibilities.
So decide already. You can always change your mind later.
Then commit to giving yourself long enough to actually see progress from your decision (and be honest about how long it should take, don’t give up early).